Tuesday, May 11, 2010

This is not hard.

Lately I've found myself saying to a number of people that this is hard.

"This" being defined as changing my life in a number of ways, including losing weight.

But...here's what I know to be true:

It's not hard.

It's never hard to do the right thing...not truly.

It may be hard to accept mentally that we will do it, but the actually doing is not really hard per se.

Yes, it may suck to go work out (especially at first, or after a while of not doing it), or yes, it takes time to change our habits, and yes, it's not fun to ask for help and to take it, etc.

But it is not hard.

I don't want to argue semantics, so it's possible that people will disagree, but I don't think at the core many of us would ever really disagree with the fact that doing the right thing is actually less "hard", because of a myriad of reasons, all having to do with us feeling better, ultimately, for having done the right thing.

Again...yes, if we've struggled with weight or whatever for a long period of time our issues may absolutely seem "hard" to address effectively.

Yes, actually addressing them: exercising, eating something healthy vs. unhealthy, asking for help, going to a counselor, acknowledging our mistakes, saying we're sorry and trying to correct our issues with people, facing our reality, etc. ...can seem "hard".

But it's not really.

It's all about state of mind.

I love that I used to be cynical about people who earnestly believed "anything was possible", etc.

I LOVE that believing that, and actively thinking that and the many thoughts I've had over the years very similar to that, never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever,

EVER helped me.

Never.

Because it just goes to show...it's about what you believe, and more importantly, it's about the actions you take to create, or to change, what you believe that matters.

Actions lead sometimes.

Actions lead sometimes and then our beliefs follow.

And then it's all synergy baby.

Momentum.

And it's up to us whether those actions, beliefs, and momentum are positive or negative.

It's up to me.

Should I, in the long-term, succeed or fail, I will always know, and be absolutely correct, that the fact is... it's only ever been up to me.

I choose to acknowledge the truth that this is a process.

A process that can take a massive amount of effort and time and tenacity and commitment.

But a "hard" process?

meh...

Only if I let it be.