tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8684609362184929716.post3367842427050243998..comments2023-10-17T09:43:03.663-06:00Comments on Stages of Change: Bird on a WireStages of Changehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03628256956240223165noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8684609362184929716.post-74006798678886680372009-03-01T17:21:00.000-07:002009-03-01T17:21:00.000-07:00First, we have have to forgive ourselves. Make up ...First, we have have to forgive ourselves. Make up to ourselves.<BR/><BR/>Funny those lines. . . who can blame a stillborn? Sure a stillborn "causes" pain but it's certainly not the baby's fault. . .the connections between baby's and parents is so tenable.. . <BR/><BR/>Who can blame a beast for being born a beast45+ and Aspiringhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06886923088331107825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8684609362184929716.post-24304296323832788052008-12-25T20:59:00.000-07:002008-12-25T20:59:00.000-07:00Thanks for responding to my comment! Merry Christm...Thanks for responding to my comment! Merry Christmas to you, too! <BR/><BR/>This blogging is helping me like nothing else ever has. I kind of know how you feel about your Mom's comment. One time my Grandma started crying and telling me how afraid she is that I'll get diabetes (and I might--my Dad has it) due to my weight. It doesn't help, though. In the past, those kinds of comments have always sent me into a downward spiral of disappointment and hopelessness for some reason. But now, I feel like although I might not like some of the comments and behaviours of other people regarding my weight, it's not up to them. It's up to me. If they can't help me and I have to do this myself, then they also can't hurt me and I can't use it as an excuse to give up. <BR/><BR/>Not that I think you will...I'm just saying that I know I won't this time, because my way of thinking has changed.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12409793235676670706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8684609362184929716.post-49372631482817940872008-12-25T13:02:00.000-07:002008-12-25T13:02:00.000-07:00Amen to that, brother! "Real Living" for once...i...Amen to that, brother! "Real Living" for once...in 2009 that's where I hope to be. Thanks for stopping by my blog. "nice to meet ya!"~closed~https://www.blogger.com/profile/07004956732951108828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8684609362184929716.post-53020333918477629682008-12-25T07:34:00.000-07:002008-12-25T07:34:00.000-07:00Mom's inherently want to save us from everything p...Mom's inherently want to save us from everything painful! And the problem with denial is that you don't know the moment when something is going to break the barrier and slap you in the face. Seeking reality gives you freedom. It takes so much energy to hide things from yourself. Yeah, it just might suck having a spotlight shown on all the dark areas, but I can guarantee that you will find some peace in the lack of surprises! (I know of what I speak!!). <BR/><BR/>Have patience with yourself, but take the time to get real. Also, once you've gotten real, get over the reality you found! Don't obsess over the numbers of life. Focus on the things that are improving (and there will be many). <BR/><BR/>You're breaking through...step into the light!Danihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16857414963500376535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8684609362184929716.post-15435230971657404172008-12-25T06:07:00.000-07:002008-12-25T06:07:00.000-07:00I recently found your blog through SpunkySuzi'...I recently found your blog through SpunkySuzi's blog. <BR/>Your posts are so real & raw & therefore so relateable (?)<BR/>The most important thing is to remember that You Began...You are aware...You are healing...NOW. <BR/>Merry Christmas!Brightceterahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04315996303259692721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8684609362184929716.post-38174196285326113252008-12-24T22:33:00.000-07:002008-12-24T22:33:00.000-07:00Denial is something I am all too familiar with. I...Denial is something I am all too familiar with. It is comforting to live in denial because reality is too harsh to face. Denial is safe and warm, reality is hard and cold. Reality blasts you in the face and cuts deep to reveal everything. Reality is a bitch.<BR/><BR/>But instead of looking at your mother's concern as a bad thing, think of it as a confirmation that your chosen path is the right one. You have begun the process to shed denial and walk straight on into reality. Your mother's concern can be used as a tool to do just that because it allowed you not to live in denial.Kimberlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08301763232264453237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8684609362184929716.post-50904660818266949072008-12-24T19:49:00.000-07:002008-12-24T19:49:00.000-07:00You do have really deep, insightful thoughts. I al...You do have really deep, insightful thoughts. I already knew that. I hope that you won't let what she said push you back. It is okay for our families to be concerned for us because we are in a pretty serious situation. I don't care if you weigh as much as a baby elephant- I am in the same boat! It is nice that she expressed her concern though (even if it just made you feel like shit) because it seems to be an expression of love. <BR/><BR/>I hope you have a wonderful Christmas!Daniellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18301516032763531624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8684609362184929716.post-6390145228787097382008-12-24T16:16:00.000-07:002008-12-24T16:16:00.000-07:00Hello,I just recently found your blog, and I'm not...Hello,<BR/><BR/>I just recently found your blog, and I'm not even sure where I found it from, but yours are some of the most thoughtful posts I've ever read.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12409793235676670706noreply@blogger.com