Tuesday, May 11, 2010

This is not hard.

Lately I've found myself saying to a number of people that this is hard.

"This" being defined as changing my life in a number of ways, including losing weight.

But...here's what I know to be true:

It's not hard.

It's never hard to do the right thing...not truly.

It may be hard to accept mentally that we will do it, but the actually doing is not really hard per se.

Yes, it may suck to go work out (especially at first, or after a while of not doing it), or yes, it takes time to change our habits, and yes, it's not fun to ask for help and to take it, etc.

But it is not hard.

I don't want to argue semantics, so it's possible that people will disagree, but I don't think at the core many of us would ever really disagree with the fact that doing the right thing is actually less "hard", because of a myriad of reasons, all having to do with us feeling better, ultimately, for having done the right thing.

Again...yes, if we've struggled with weight or whatever for a long period of time our issues may absolutely seem "hard" to address effectively.

Yes, actually addressing them: exercising, eating something healthy vs. unhealthy, asking for help, going to a counselor, acknowledging our mistakes, saying we're sorry and trying to correct our issues with people, facing our reality, etc. ...can seem "hard".

But it's not really.

It's all about state of mind.

I love that I used to be cynical about people who earnestly believed "anything was possible", etc.

I LOVE that believing that, and actively thinking that and the many thoughts I've had over the years very similar to that, never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever,

EVER helped me.

Never.

Because it just goes to show...it's about what you believe, and more importantly, it's about the actions you take to create, or to change, what you believe that matters.

Actions lead sometimes.

Actions lead sometimes and then our beliefs follow.

And then it's all synergy baby.

Momentum.

And it's up to us whether those actions, beliefs, and momentum are positive or negative.

It's up to me.

Should I, in the long-term, succeed or fail, I will always know, and be absolutely correct, that the fact is... it's only ever been up to me.

I choose to acknowledge the truth that this is a process.

A process that can take a massive amount of effort and time and tenacity and commitment.

But a "hard" process?

meh...

Only if I let it be.

10 comments:

  1. I say that its hard a lot too, and honestly I still think it is, but I get where you are coming from. Is it harder to resist binging, or to weigh over 400lbs? Is it harder to have a salad instead of pizza or try and walk through the grocery store at over 400lbs? You are right, the journey is easier than the outcome without it.

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  2. It probably works in such a way, and on so many levels
    that we cannot ever begin to comprehend any of it.
    Glad to see ya back, guy!

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  3. Once again, your talent in writing has inspired me. You've somehow explained some of my own thoughts, better than I could.

    You wrote:
    Actions lead sometimes.
    Actions lead sometimes and then our beliefs follow.
    And then it's all synergy baby.
    Momentum.

    I am experiencing this now. And if I can, anyone can.

    Thanks for this.

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  4. The great thing about this process is that it gets easier and easier the longer you do it. I have no doubt that in the long run you will succeed. Come on, it's easy, right?

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  5. I loved and agreed with every word you've written here. Great post--understanding the mental part of this process is 80% of the way. I can tell, you've studied this mental process like me, through experience....and those experiences were valuable--because you have a clarity now that can propel you to where you want to be mentally and physically.

    My best always
    Sean

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  6. Great post! Sometimes I wonder how I got where I am. What that tells me if I need to work on the belief part of things for myself. I lead myself down this road with actions but now I have to have "faith" I can maintain and continue changing in other ways. I must say I'm not sure that is easy but I'm trying. Good to see a post from ya.

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  7. I am so glad you posted! Wish you would more frequently but its not about me now is it.

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  8. Hi! I was just curious how you're doing with that Jack Sh*t challenge thing? Would love to hear about it!

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  9. I too am wondering how you are? Miss your words.

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